Going to funeral homes or looking at caskets is not the kind of event that everyone anticipates especially during the holidays. More often than not, it is something that people dread to go to. It cannot be avoided especially since we are not clairvoyant with what happens in the future. There are things that happen unexpectedly that we avoid like a plague such as losing someone we love. However, we can’t really do something about it and dealing with the loss is difficult especially if is during the holidays when everybody is spending time with their families.
How do you deal with a love one who passed away before or even during the Christmas holiday? With the sudden change, it will be difficult for anyone especially the bereaved to accept it. It takes time to process the loss. You would need the support of your loved ones or your immediate family in order to deal with the loss of your loved one and still remain sane all throughout the process. You have to expect a different highs and lows of emotions. This is especially true to those who have dying loved ones. The stress that you get from taking care of the person you love who’s dying is different.
Blaming yourself is sometimes the easiest way to deal with the anger or the frustration of losing a loved one. However, do not ever blame yourself. You have to remember that you cannot control the person’s life. You also have to focus on keeping yourself busy. Remember to take care of yourself as well. It might not be easy but with the help of your family or friends that understand your situation would help you in keeping yourself together. They don’t have to talk to you all the time. All they have to do is be there for you. In addition, consider finding counseling especially if you do not have anyone near you at the moment. This would even pave its way for you to find social support groups that can help you as well. You can also try to help another person as a form of therapy on yourself.