When someone dies, we often do not know what to say. We want to express our deepest sympathies to the loved ones that are left behind but we could really not quite put it into words because we feel like anything we say would not be enough. Some would offer to sing one of the funeral songs that positively describes the deceased or simply recite one of the funeral poems during the program while some would rather write a condolence letter expressing their deepest sympathies. We might have an idea of what to say but finding the right words is not easy. A condolence or sympathy letter is a simple and effective way of letting a grieving person know that they are not alone during this difficult process of mourning. It is important to get the right message across.
Writing a condolence letter entails a carefully thought message. There are seven components that you can include as a form of guideline to help you with the process of writing. First is acknowledging the loss and referring to the deceased by name. This adds to the personal touch of the letter. Second, you can express your sympathies. Then, you can start noting the specific qualities of the deceased. You can incorporate one of your favorite memories of the deceased. This will help remind the bereaved of the dead’s strengths and unique qualities. You can also offer help but you have to make sure that it is a specific offer. This is to avoid the bereaved in depending on you entirely for support.
Therefore, you can say a specific routine that the deceased used to share with the bereaved such as taking them to Church every Sunday rather than letting them know that you are there for them if they need anything. Of course, you need to have that special bond with both the deceased and the bereaved for you to be able to pinpoint the best activity for you to suggest. Then, you can end the letter with an expression of sympathy, a thoughtful word, encouraging words of hope, or a positive wish for the bereaved. Lastly, do not forget to add closing remarks such as the popular “Sincerely,” “Wishing you God’s peace,” or a simple word such as “Love.”