CLAYTON, Ryan James

Suddenly, on Sunday, August 5, 2012, in his 37th year.

Forever loved by mother Norma Coupland and step-father Bob, brother Todd Clayton (Melanie), father Roger Clayton (Susan).  Loving memories of Ryan will be always cherished by his Uncle Dave and Aunt Chris Looker, Aunt Elly and Uncle Paul Turnbull, cousins Susan Looker (Tyler Coultis), Brendan Looker (Leah Micallef), and Lindsey La Belle.  He will be sadly missed by the many family friends and co-workers who cared for him so much.

Ryan was a wonderful young man, well-liked by all who knew him.  Polite, personable and well spoken, he made friends so easily and made people feel good when he was around.  Sadly, in spite of his constant efforts over the years, he wasn’t able to overcome the addiction that finally took him.  He touched many, many lives and will never be forgotten by those who knew and loved him.

Cremation has taken place and there will be a private family memorial at a later date.

Donations in Ryan’s memory to The Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH), or St. Michael’s Homes, Toronto, would be appreciated.


My beautiful boy, your long struggle is over and you are now at peace.  We have a special bond that will never be broken, not even in death.  You never ended a phone call or a text without saying “Love you”.

From me to you – one final, loving and heartfelt “muah”.

I love you and will miss you always.   Mum.

24 replies
  1. Joy Richards
    Joy Richards says:

    Dear Norma,
    My heart missed a beat when Vivian told me the news a little while ago. I can only imagine your anguish, but I know that you’re facing it with your natural poise and calm. Being your son, he must have been a wonderful young man, and you will hold on, like we all do, to the magical minutes, days, weeks and months that we get to spend with our children, times like no other.
    Look after yourself.

  2. Linda Wilson
    Linda Wilson says:

    Norma, My deepest sympathies for your loss and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

  3. Vivian Cosentini
    Vivian Cosentini says:

    I just heard and want to convey my deepest condolences to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time and may you find peace and strength to help you cope with this terrible loss.

  4. Margaret and Tim Davey
    Margaret and Tim Davey says:

    Dear Norma and Bob
    We hope Ryan is now at peace and that his spirit will live on in your hearts and memories. Our deepest condolences to you both, and to your whole family at this sad time for you.
    Love and hugs, Tim and Margaret

  5. Elly Turnbull
    Elly Turnbull says:

    Dear Norma,
    I saw this poem today, after we spoke and it made me think of you and I wanted to share it… “I am sending a dove to heaven with a parcel on its wings. Be careful when you open it, it’s full of beautiful things. Inside are a million kisses, wrapped in a million hugs, to say how much I miss you and to send you all my love. I hold you close within my heart and there you will remain, to walk with me throughout my life, until we meet again.”
    One day at a time my dear sister, and remember Ryan’s words…
    Love, Elly & Paul

  6. Karen Booth and Jim Ward
    Karen Booth and Jim Ward says:

    Norma and Bob,
    Jim and I are in Oregon and heard the heart-breaking news. So sorry and we hope that you are doing all right and being gentle with yourself as you grieve your huge loss. We loved your beautiful words in the above obituary and wish we had known Ryan, as like you, he sounds like a very special person. He clearly touched many people’s lives and will live on through them.

    Take care of yourselves and we look forward to seeing you at Christmas.

    Love and huge hugs,
    Karen and Jim

  7. Don and Ginette
    Don and Ginette says:

    ^There are no words that adequately express our feelings at a time like this. To all who mourn Ryan, we wish you peace, courage, and fond memories.
    We hold you in our prayers. We wish, Norma, that we could be there with you; it is certainly a time for a hug. We send you our love.
    Don and Ginette

  8. Marie Auffrey
    Marie Auffrey says:

    Dear Norma,
    I was saddend to hear of your son Ryan’s passing. Please accept my deepest sympathy and condolences at this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Bob and your family.

  9. Mary DaSilva
    Mary DaSilva says:

    Dear Norma and Bob,

    Please accept my deepest sympathies on your tremendous loss. I pray that Ryan is now at peace and that your memories of him will carry you through. My thoughts and prayers are with you.


  10. Mark Andrew Alward
    Mark Andrew Alward says:

    Hello Norma & Family,

    Norma, I was glad that I could meet you at the house last week and though I didn’t get to know Ryan, I truly wish that I did. It sounds like he was a truly wonderful and kind man with many gifts. I’d like to send some more words to you. I will include my e-mail address here ([email protected]) and it is also on my website.

    Much love,

    Mark Andrew

  11. Susan Hanna
    Susan Hanna says:

    Dear Norma and Bob: We were all very sorry to hear about your son Ryan passing away. We know this must be a very difficult time for you. Please know that you have many friends thinking of you and your family. Hopefully, you will have many happy memories of good times with Ryan that will bring a smile to your face. with love and warm regards, Sue, Mike, Lindsay, Kyle and Cathy Hanna

  12. Norma
    Norma says:

    Thank you all so much for your kind and caring comments. I know that you will all understand what a difficult and terribly sad time this is for our family.

  13. Gail Dekker
    Gail Dekker says:

    My dear Norma:

    I am extremely saddened to have just heard of your dear son’s passing. The death of a child is one of life’s cruelest blows. I feel so deeply for you, but you and I both know that a mother’s love can never broken! Ryan will always be with you in loving spirit …… right up until the time you meet again… in God’s house.

    My love and prayers are with you and your family. Bless you all!

    Gail Dekker and Family

  14. Monick Lessard
    Monick Lessard says:

    I am so sorry to hear about Ryan’s sudden passing. I know there is no word to say that will ease the pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Bob during this difficult time.
    With my deepest sympathy.

  15. Aldis & Paul
    Aldis & Paul says:

    We are so sorry to hear of Ryan’s sudden passing and our hearts go out to you and your family during this difficult time.
    We wish we had the words to help ease your pain. Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you grieve.
    With our Deepest Sympathy,
    Aldis & Paul

  16. Terri Barth
    Terri Barth says:

    i wish i got to know more .. u came into my life like a wild fire and unfortunatkly u left my life in the same way.. miss u like crazy …miss our day long conversations. We all miss your upbeat personality at work.. passing on many condolences to the family from everyone at the Rabbid Fox love u and miss you ryan !

    • Norma
      Norma says:

      Terri, thanks for your words. It means so much to me that in his last days Ryan had the opportunity to work in a great place, and to spend time with and share with wonderful people like you, who cared about him. I will forever be thankful for that.

  17. Deborah Serravalle
    Deborah Serravalle says:

    While the loss of a loved one is never easy, even when expected, it is most difficult when they are taken from us suddenly and at such a young age. Ryan’s passing, for this reason, is especially hard.

    Eugene and I offer our deepest sympathy and condolences. We hope the outpouring of love, sympathy and acts of kindness you may receive in response to this terrible loss, offer some measure of comfort.

    We pray for God’s blessing on you and your family. May you find the strength and courage to move forward with peace.

    Love, Deborah and Eugene Serravalle


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